I have been super lucky to be surrounded by people who have already done this whole pregnancy thing, and while I’ve come to find some really good books on the subject, I still maintain that the best advice can come from close friends and family. I watched this Ted Talk by Jennifer Senior a while ago and I remember how much it surprised me to hear her say that new mothers are more likely to seek advice from the internet or book store than their own mother. Do we all really collectively think that the way our moms did it was wrong? (The funny thing is, I think if we’re even questioning their methods, they did something absolutely right :))
At any rate, I couldn’t be luckier to have a sister who’s a midwife, a best friend who has had a baby in the past year, and another friend who is due about a week before I am. And then there are all the other strong women (long-time friends, work friends, non-pregnant/mother friends who have actually some of the most reasonable advice I've heard!) who just have so much to offer in terms of practical experience. Although, I think it does make sense to think about who you solicit advice from (learned this the hard way!) but I have found over the past few months that it’s just so much better to get the advice from a comforting voice than the internet or a book – because there are SO many books and websites and it’s hard to know where to turn right away.
Beyond all the tidbits of life advice I've received, I wanted to share some valuable recommendations that have completely improved my life in some way over the past 4 months:
1. The Snoogle (Recommended by my best friend): I don’t think I’d be sleeping half as well as I do without this strangely shaped and perfectly named object. It has become my new bed buddy and we’re all better off because of it ;) (Mike even tries to steal it sometimes because I make it look that comfortable).
2. This Yoga and This Pilates DVD (Recommended by my Aunt): My Aunt was actually kind enough to send me some personalized yoga exercises for upper back pain (it’s been killer for me since about the second month!) and they’ve done wonders. So much so that I also purchased these pre-natal DVD’s – I’ve enjoyed switching up between the flexibility and flow and strength routines.
3. This Humidifier (Recommended by my friend at work/researched by my savvy husband!): My worst symptom of pregnancy? Worse than throwing up and back pain? (ok maybe not that bad) Stuffy nose/face/everything – I am so congested! Anyway this humidifier is non-mould producing, non-germ spreading and the Snoogle and I basically sleep on top of it. My congestion isn’t gone, but it’s about 100X better than it was before we had it. (This one really just makes good life sense. I should have had it so long ago!)
4. Ina May's Guide to Childbirth (Recommended by my sister): Hands down, best intro book I read when I first found out I was pregnant. It completely set the tone for how I’ve looked at pregnancy since the stories reminded me that pregnancy isn’t a condition, illness or struggle – it’s the most normal thing that humans have ever known. And that was so comforting to me since everything happenning to my body did not feel normal at all. ;)
It's our first real ultrasound today and I can't wait to see that little one for the first time!! <3